There are several early warning signs your marriage could be heading for divorce, if they are ignored and not addressed. Resolving issues within a marriage can be difficult for some people. They might not know how to effectively communicate what is bothering them with their spouse. This could lead to arguments and disagreements since the main issues are not being resolved.Eventually, there is a break down in communications and when this occurs, it often paves the way for further problems, and ultimately divorce.
The following are some of the more common warning signs and behaviours you need to be aware of:
- Finding fault in everything the spouse does.
- Turning minor issues into major arguments.
- Disagreements in parenting styles.
- Automatically becoming defensive whenever the spouse wants to discuss issues.
- Dreading spending time alone with your spouse.
- Spending more time with friends than with your spouse.
- Working longer hours to be away from home.
- Thinking about how life would be without your spouse.
- Infrequent or a lack of intimacy and sex.
- Feelings of contempt or resentment toward the spouse.
- A general sense of feeling alone.
- The spouse does not like who they have become or how they feel.
- A lack of emotional support between the couple.
- One spouse feels they are doing all the giving and not getting anything in return.
- Your spouse is not the same person you married.
- Constantly being belittled or picked on by the spouse.
Fortunately, if you can recognize these early warning signs and realize that there could be problems with your marriage, it is possible to save your marriage with help from a licensed therapist in Toronto.
Keep in mind every couple, their issues and problems, and circumstances all vary. There is not a magical number of issues you could be experiencing which signifies your marriage is headed for a divorce. Ideally, if you recognize even one of these warning signs, it is worthwhile to discuss your concerns with a therapist, at least by yourself, to determine whether your marriage is at risk.
In some situations, there could be other underlying issues one person is feeling or experiencing and those problems are overflowing into the marriage. For instance, one person was abused as a child, either physically or sexually, but has never discussed the matter with anyone. The feelings and emotions from this event could be influencing behaviours within the marriage. By addressing the issues caused from a traumatic childhood event, it could potentially be all that is needed to resolve the problems in the marriage.
Again, this is just one example of a situation which could lead to martial problems. It is important to stress each person and couple are unique and have to be treated as such, in order to discover the exact problems and issues within the marriage. For more information about couples therapy in Toronto or to schedule an initial consultation appointment to discuss your concerns, feel free to contact Ellen Starr marriage counselling today at 416-488-3102.