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Does Marriage Counselling Work?

Does Marriage Counselling Work?

Does marriage counselling work? Can it help resolve marital issues and get the spark back in a relationship? I had the same questions seven months ago. Hi, my name is Sandra, a pediatric nurse at a famous clinic in the heart of Markham, Ontario, and in this blog, I’ll like to share with you how I got the answers to my own questions.

I was raised in a broken home. Growing up, I would watch my parents fight every day, and finally, they parted ways when I was barely eight. My dad and mum did not consider marriage counselling because they believed nothing could ever bring back their love. None of them made any effort to improve their relationship, leaving me and my brother, Peter, devastated most of the time. My parents failed to realize that as long there is life, there is hope.

History repeating itself

I got married to my high school heartthrob, Derek, nine years ago. Our relationship was perfect initially, and anyone could tell we were so much in love. But recently, I began to have issues in my marriage without even noticing it. My hubby and I would argue over every little thing. It got to a point where we could barely hold a normal conversation. We do not agree on anything. Fortunately, we don’t experience any significant problems, but we still have many unresolved issues. Since we only had minor issues, I never for a second thought that I would need a counsellor’s help. But that changed the day my six-year-old son asked if we would be getting separated. I was extremely shocked. It then dawned on me that I was making my son go through the same horrible experience I had as a child. I felt extreme guilt, and I was determined to get help. When I first spoke with my husband about it, he said, “is marriage counselling really necessary?” This made me a bit angry, but I just let it slide. 

Taking the bold step

I promised to do everything possible to make us a happy family again, and I prayed my husband would do the same. I did not want my son to feel broken as I was many years back. So, I decided to seek assistance and never argue or quarrel with my husband again. My husband and I began traditional marriage counselling that same week. We tried to be respectful towards each other and did not pick any fight in the presence of our child, but it felt like we were acting. After several months of continuous therapy, we went back to fighting again. No, this was the type of life I wanted for myself or my son. I refused to give up. I firmly believed there must be another way to rescue my marriage.

Marriage Boot Camp

Finally, I got the answers to all my questions above: Does marriage counselling help? Can it help resolve marital issues and get the spark back in a relationship? The answer is a capital YES! My hubby and I participated in the Marriage Boot Camp together, although it took a lot of persuasions and begging (literarily) from me to have agreed to it. Now, we have set aside our differences, sorted our pending issues, and fallen heads over heels in love again. I recommend this program to anyone desperately looking for answers.

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