Every New Year, people reflect about the previous year and areas in their life they want to improve. To help make these improvements, we make a list of New Year’s resolutions. Common resolutions people will make include:
- Losing Weight
- Exercising More
- Eating Healthier
- Finishing Our College/University Degrees
- Finding a New Job
- Improving Our Current Job to Get a Promotion
- Buying a House
Yet for many people the momentum and excitement we feel on January 1st soon dissipates as we move into February. By March, most people have thrown in the towel on their New Year’s resolutions and give up entirely until the following year.
Why People Can’t Keep New Year’s Resolutions
There are all sorts of reasons why people fall short on their New Year’s resolutions. Some people will make a resolution that is simply beyond their abilities and not possible to achieve yet. For instance, they might say they want to get a new job, buy house, and finish their college education.
Thinking about it, achieving these are possible, but they must be done in a particular order. One would want to get their degree first, then find a better job next. Once they have established themselves at their new job, finally buy the house they have been dreaming about. Yet, reaching these goals is not something that can be easily accomplished in a single year.
Another reason people fall short is because they are trying to do too much too quickly. Making adjustments to our daily routines requires a gradual shift to allow us time to adjust. To illustrate, you want to get fit and lose weight so you join a fitness centre. You go to the fitness centre every day in January.
By the end of the month your body aches and your muscles are sore. You tell yourself you need a day off, so you take one. Then the next day you make an excuse to not go again. While you might go workout on the third day, the frequency of skip days gradually increases until you stop going.
Achieving resolutions requires working at them gradually. Had you gone to the gym two or three times a week to start with and kept at this slow, but steady pace, you are not as inclined to give up as quickly.
In other cases, people fail because they have no support system in place to provide encouragement and guidance. This is where professional counselling can be beneficial. Your counsellor is able to listen to the resolutions you want to achieve and help you determine the best order to reach them.
In addition, your counsellor can help you determine and plan the best way to accomplish your resolutions. Such as setting a smaller list of goals and objectives, which once completed helps you meet your initial resolution.
New Year’s is not the only time to make resolutions. In fact, you can make resolutions at any time of the year on things you want to change or do. For assistance and support reaching your resolutions, both personal and professional, please feel free to contact Ellen Starr Marriage Counselling at 416-488-3102 today!