Infidelity and Affairs Counselling in Toronto
Infidelity and affairs can be very damaging to your existing relationship if your loved one were to find out. Recovering infidelity can be very difficult for the person who was not cheating. They can experience a wide range of emotions from hurt and anger to sadness.
They can question what is wrong with them that you had to go outside the relationship. They might even be upset enough they could seek retribution by going out and finding someone of their own to have an affair with or engage in sex to get even.
Oftentimes, the cause for your infidelity and affair has nothing to do with your current relationship. You may love your partner very deeply, yet have a sense of unfulfillment because certain needs are not being met. As such, you seek to fulfill these needs outside the relationship since you are not able to communicate your desires and needs with your loved one.
Unfortunately, the longer you are unfaithful and the affair continues, it can cause long-term damage to your existing relationship. Eventually, your partner is bound to find out and confront you.
Sadly, infidelity and affairs can leave deep wounds and scars on your current relationship, which can be difficult to recover from, but is still possible. Recovery from infidelity and affairs starts with seeking help through infidelity and affairs counselling in Toronto with me, Ellen Starr.
Recovering from Infidelity and Affairs
The type of recovery you need will depend on whether your loved one knows you have been cheating. If they have not yet discovered the affair, then counselling can help you discover what is missing from your current relationship.
We can explore various communication methods so you can discuss your desires and needs with your loved one. Additionally, we can explore whether you should be honest with your loved one and tell them you had an affair.
If your loved one knows you were unfaithful, the most difficult thing to overcome is rebuilding trust. Part of rebuilding trust is being able to communicate, which can be equally difficult once infidelity has been brought out into the open.
One person is feeling hurt, anger, and other emotions because they were cheated on, while the other is feeling remorse and guilt for having cheated. This can make it seem like the relationship is at an end and is not able to be saved.
However, as long as both people are willing and committed to saving their relationship it is possible with infidelity and affairs counselling. Together, we will explore:
- How to cope with feelings of displacement.
- Accepting and addressing that there may have been flaws in the relationship.
- Learning how to express emotions in a productive manner.
- Learning how to communicate and understand each other’s own feelings and emotions.
- Learning how to eventually find acceptance and overcome the grief of infidelity.
- Discovering how to reconnect with your loved one and fall in love all over again.
For further information about infidelity and affairs counselling in Toronto or to schedule a consultation appointment, please feel free to contact me, Ellen Starr at 416-488-3102 today!