Whether you cohabitate with your special someone or you are married, intimacy plays a vital role in healthy and successful relationships. Both physical and emotional intimacy must be present if you want your relationship to thrive and last. When either one or other or both types of intimacy are missing from relationships, this where problems begin and things start to deteriorate.
It is important to remember you cannot have physical intimacy without emotional intimacy and emotional intimacy without some form of physical intimacy. When things start to break down in relationships it is often due to one person placing a greater significance on one form of intimacy over the other.
Prior to the breaking point, the couple may have assumed everything was fine, until one person spoke up and said their intimacy levels were not be satisfied, or worse, neither one says anything, and one day, one or both people decide to simply end the relationship without any clear understanding why it failed.
If you find you are having difficulties either being emotionally or physically intimate with your partner, you need to determine the underlying causes for this situation. It is often beneficial to consult with an experienced Toronto marriage and couples counselor, like me, Ellen Starr. Your relationship will not last long when intimacy levels are unbalanced.
Intimacy is the foundation of strong and lasting relationships. It lets both people know they are loved, cared for, and appreciated. Whatever challenges life tosses at you and your partner, you know you will survive thanks to the security intimacy brings between both of you.
Most relationships start to form intimacy during the early stages. If at this point, you lack intimate feelings towards the other person, this is a good time to end things before committing to a long-term relationship or agreeing to get married. If you are not satisfied now, things will only become more complicated and dissatisfying the longer you stay in the relationship.
People tend to dislike hurting others, especially their partners, but sometimes when there is an imbalance in intimacy and no feasible way for one or both people to rectify the situation, it can be beneficial and healthier in the long run, both mentally and physically to come to a mutual agreement to end the relationship.
However, before things get to this point, one important concept couples tend to forget is intimacy is ever-changing and evolving. Intimacy needs to be constantly nurtured and built upon in order for a relationship to succeed. It is not uncommon for couples to also start to change their focus from one type of intimacy to the other the longer they are together.
In addition, each person often has their own specific requirements for the types of intimacy they desire, whether it is physical or emotional. It is important to couples to be able to effectively communicate their intimacy needs and work together to ensure each partner is being properly fulfilled.
If you are having problems communicating your intimacy needs with your partner or are experiencing other problems with your relationship or marriage, help is available. Call my office at 416-488-3102 to schedule a consultation appointment today and together we will discover what is best for your relationship.